हनुमान जी के सिंदूर -गुस्से और जिद पर काबू पायें

गुस्से और जिद्द पर काबू कैसे पायें

हनुमान जी के सिंदूर का प्रयोग कर गुस्से और जिद पर काबू पायें
हर माता – पिता की यही प्रयास करते हैं कि वो अपने बच्चों को अच्छी परवरिश तथा अच्छा जीवन दें. जिसके लिए वो अपने बच्चों की हर इच्छा को पूर्ण कर देते हैं. लेकिन कभी – कभी बच्चों के द्वारा कुछ ऐसी वस्तुओं की मांग की जाती हैं. जिनको पूरा कर पाना उनके माता – पिता के लिए असंभव हो जाता हैं. ऐसी स्थिति में कुछ बच्चे अपने माता – पिता से गुस्सा हो जाते हैं और अपनी मांग की पूर्ति हेतु जिद्द  करते हैं. अगर इसके बाद लगातार बच्चों की बातों को माता – पिता नजरअंदाज करने लगते हैं तो गुस्सा और जिद्द उनके व्यवहार में निहित हो जाता हैं. जिसके बुरे परिणाम का भी कई बार बच्चों के साथ – साथ उनके माता – पिता को सामना करना पड़ता हैं. यदि आपका बच्चा भी जिद्दी हैं और उसे जल्द ही गुस्सा आ जाता हैं. तो नीचे दिए गये उपायों का प्रयोग जरूर करें.
हनुमान चालीसा एक चमत्कारी रामबाण उपाय ...

1.कभी – कभी बच्चे अपनी छोटी – छोटी बातों को मनवाने के लिए जिद्द करने लग जाते हैं. जिससे जिद्द करना उनकी आदत बन जाती हैं. अपने बच्चे की जिद्द करने की प्रवृति को कम करवाने के लिए आप पहले तो बच्चों को आराम से प्यार से समझाएं. अगर वो इसके बाद भी न माने तो नीचे अगला प्रयोग आजमायें. ना ...
ुस्से और जिद्द पर काबू कैसे पायें

2.शास्त्रों के अनुसार यदि कोई बच्चा बहुत ज्यादा जिद्दी हो, छोटी – छोटी बातों पर गुस्सा हो जाता हो, माता – पिता की बात बिल्कुल न सुनता हो, जिद्द के कारण ही जमीन पर लेट जाता हो, चिडचिडापन उसके व्यवहार की मुख्य प्रवृति बन गई हो. तो इसके लिए हनुमान जी के मंदिर में शनिवार और मंगलवार को जाएँ और उनके बायें पैर का सिंदूर लेकर उसके माथे पर लागायें. हर मंगलवार और शनिवार के दिन इस प्रयोग को करने से आपका बच्चा जिद्द करना और गुस्सा करना बिल्कुल छोड़ देगा.

हनुमान जी के सिंदूर का महत्व

हनुमान जी के दोनों पैरों पर लगा सिंदूर बहुत ही प्रभावशाली होता हैं. ऐसा माना जाता हैं कि इस सिंदूर का तिलक जब कोई भी व्यक्ति अपने मस्तिष्क पर लगता हैं. तो हनुमान जी उस व्यक्ति को सद्बुद्धि प्रदान करते हैं. इसीलिए हनुमान जी को बल और बुद्धि का दाता भी माना जाता हैं तथा इसीलिए जो व्यक्ति या बच्चे ज्यादा जिद्दी या गुस्सैल होते हैं. उनके लिए यह सिंदूर बहुत ही उपयोगी सिद्ध होता हैं. हनुमान जी के सिंदूर को लगाने के बाद व्यक्ति का गुस्सा जैसे – एक दम से ही गायब हो जाता हैं और जिद्द धीरे – धीरे ख़त्म हो जाती हैं. हनुमान जी के सिंदूर को लगाने से व्यक्ति को इन दोनों ही चीजों से मुक्ति तो मिलती ही हैं. इसके साथ ही उन्हें पुण्य लाभ भी प्राप्त होता

Parenting your child or aloe vera

I will Improve |

Little Aditya, was in tears. He is an 8 year old boy. His Mom was shouting at him, as he has not completed his math homework, even after an hour. Aditya's parents are Ruchi, and Rishi. Both are working in MNC's. Ruchi took a career break of 5 years, to take care of Aditya. Now, she had joined her office again from a junior level, whereas all her friends have moved to the senior level.

When Rishi, entered the home, Aditya was in tears, Ruchi was shouting at him. “What is 8 * 6, Adi, come on, I taught you tables twice yesterday, still you are unable to remember. What am I supposed to do? You remember all cartoon stories, but not one simple tables”.

Aditya tried to remember a lot, he couldn't remember anything, and he thought it may be 48, but he was scared to tell his mom, what if it is wrong, she will get upset. He thought to himself, “Mom, I will Improve”.

He didn’t know how. He wanted to, he wanted to see his mother happy.
When, he was in the younger classes, He used to win, many prizes in different competitions. He and his mother were very happy. As he grew up, suddenly he felt he was pushed in a complex world, he couldn't grasp many things, and his fellow students could do.

He went to meet doctors and counselors, his mother thought he was sick. He was not sure whether he was sick or not. May be he has a poor memory like his mom and teachers say. He was not able to make a decision. Tonight, his father has come early from the office.

He was happy. He will rescue him.
Soon as his father, freshened up, he gave a hug to Aditya. To Aadi’s relief, he said with a huge smile, “Go and play”. He was happy, but he looked at his mother with wide eyes, and said slowly,” Dad, I didn’t complete my homework!” His father, replied, “I will do it, don’t worry.” Aadi, again gave a bear hug and ran outside to play with his friends. Ruchi was upset. She retorted angrily,”Will you go and write his exams too?”

After Aditya left, Rishi, hugged Ruchi, “Why are you so tensed dear. He will pick up, don't worry”. Ruchi was upset,” Do you think you love him more than, me, what is the point you want to prove? You never attend the Parent Teachers Meeting, I have to listen from teachers, and I need to face the other parents. You just don't need to face anything”.

Rishi kept quiet, “Ruchi, do you think, by shouting at him, things would improve. You thought, he may have some learning disabilities, but the psychologist proved there is nothing like that. All children are not same”.Ruchi replied back, “

But I am spending so much time with him. I am always teaching him, each and everything, still what do you expect me to do?”
Rishi, smiled and said,” I expect you, not to expect anything from him. Don’t expect him to learn things faster, don’t expect him to be like you.”

Ruchi retorted back angrily,” I am not expecting him to get first prize in everything like me, but at least he shouldn’t be so dull. Now he is 3 rd std and he is not sure about 5*5=25, how his life will be. All his friends, will reach a good position in life, what his life will become? I am so scared. Rishi, I put in so much hardwork on him, still why he is not getting marks?”
Rishi kept quiet. Ruchi, always wanted the best. She was always best in whatever she did, the fact she didn't understand is Aadi is the best child. He is very friendly with everyone, always tries to help others.

He was hoping, Ruchi will find her answer soon.
After few days,his paternal aunt, Durga Bua, came to visit them. Her son has settled in US. She occasionally visits India,to visit her relatives.

After many years, she has come to visit them. Ruchi loves Durga Bua, everyone loves her for her soft words and naïve nature. She was playing with Aadi and commented to Ruchi, “Aadi is a very good boy”. For which Ruchi, replied in a dull voice.” Hmmmm”.she sensed something wrong, but didn’t ask anything.
After Aadi left, she asked, “what happened Ruchi?”.

Ruchi shared her worries with her aunt. She listened everything carefully. She went to the small garden which Ruchi maintains in her balcony, and said,” I observe you have a beautiful garden. How do you maintain them? Ruchi replied happily,” I take personal care,bua”.

Her aunt said, “Why is this aloe Vera plant, shorter than others, is it a new plant, or you are not watering them properly?” Ruchi whispered, “No, aunt, I have planted it a year back. I take care of them properly, few plants grow faster and few takes time”.

Then, aunt asked, “What do you do then? Do you tell the shorter plant, daily, grow up, look at the other plants, otherwise your life would be of no use or you nurture them slowly that it takes time in growing and you still love them”.
Ruchi felt something snap in her. She looked at her aunt, with tears in her eyes.
Durga Bua, said,” There are 7 types of learning skills for a child, few learn by looking, few by hearing, few by explaining, few understand things by doing activities, and few learn by practically doing the same things again and again.

A mother or teacher should try to teach a child, all the 7 methods, and then understand the child’s best learning language and teach accordingly. You can’t think. Your child is dull. Each and every child is unique and special.

Can’t you see Aadi is trying everything to make you happy? He loves you so much. If you nurture him now, it is good for both of you. If he accepts, he is dull and turns to be a loser, what will you do?”

Ruchi shuddered by the thought,” Understand your child and help him to understand things. I know you are very busy and Rishi doesn’t help you.

Still I am sure, once you are clear and support, Aadi, Rishi will try his level best to help you. Just try. It is always too soon to quit with your child.”

*De-briefing of this story*

Accept the fact that even though they are your children, they just share 50% of your DNA. So they are 50% different than you.

Nurture them as they are and not as you want. Being a good parent  is not just about producing result but producing result as per your child's  strength.

Parenting Guidance by www.AstroRrachita.In

It is Our Job to prepare Our Children for the Road & Not prepare the Road for Our Children"

A man, an avid Gardener saw a small Butterfly laying few eggs in one of the pots in his garden.
Since that day he looked at the egg with ever growing curiosity and eagerness.
The egg started to move and shake a little.
He was excited to see a new life coming up right in front of his eyes.
He spent hours watching the egg now. The egg started to expand and develop cracks.
A tiny head and antennae started to come out ever so slowly. The man's excitement knew no bounds.
He got his magnifying glasses and sat to watch the life and body of a pupa coming out.

He saw the struggle of the tender pupa and couldn't resist his urge to "HELP".
He went and got a tender forceps to help the egg break, a nip here, a nip there to help the struggling life and the pupa was out. The man was ecstatic!
He waited now each day for the pupa to grow and fly like a beautiful butterfly, but alas that never happened.
The larvae pupa had a oversized head and kept crawling along in the pot for the full 4 weeks and died!

Depressed the man went to his botanist friend and asked the reason. His friend told him the struggle to break out of the egg helps the larvae to send blood to its wings and the head push helps the head to remain small so that the tender wings can support it thru its 4 week life cycle. In his eagerness to help, the man destroyed a beautiful life!

Struggles help all of us, that's why a bit of effort goes a long way to develop our strength to face life's difficulties!
As parents, we sometimes go too far trying to help and protect our kids from life's harsh realities and disappointments.
We don't want our kids to struggle like we did.

Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Dan Kindlon says that over-protected children are more likely to struggle in relationships and with challenges.
We're sending our kids the message that they're not capable of helping themselves.

To quote clinical psychologist, Dr. Wendy 's Moral:
"It is Our Job to prepare Our Children for the Road & Not prepare the Road for Our Children"

All parents - do read it